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Keeping things stimulating
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Posted 3 months ago I hear so much about having intellectually stimulating conversations with your mate. And after 11 years of marriage, I know how important it is to keep that pathway open. But let's face it, when life starts unfolding around you and stuff has to get done, it's just plain old hard to remember to keep your spouse stimulated in that area. Conversations just tend to steer towards kids and their needs, bills and how they get paid and so on. What are you folks doing out here to keep that pathway open? Do you have date nights and not allow conversations about home during that period? Do you read the paper and make sure that you find topics that might be of interest to discuss over dinner? Share with me and everyone else what's working for you! Do It Scared! |
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| Posted 2 months ago Intellectual stimulation is different than sexual stimulation (although they can lead to each other!) My man and I talk about topics on this site. I "ask a man" what he thinks based on what I'm posting. GREAT intellectual conversation! Ann M. Evanston, MA CEO Zena Entreprises
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| Posted 2 months ago We talk about things I read about on this site as well. I definitely agree that intellectual and sexual stimulation are two different things. I have found that with this being an election year we have so much to talk about all time. We also enjoy talking about the latest money making ventures out there. Do It Scared! |
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| Posted 2 months ago This is a great question, qianab. Conversation is paramount in my life so I've taken the reigns of making sure it happens a lot in my relationship with my beau. Here's how it works for us: 1. I know this is unimaginable to most people but we got rid of our access to TV. (We only watch select movies now and then that we get at the library or on Netflix.) This gives us HOURS back in our lives. About 3 evenings a week we talk while doing one of the following: play cards, play lawn games, go for a walk, or do something special. (Naturally this often leads to lovemaking so there's usually more good conversation after that!) 2. We used to meditate together every morning for about 20 minutes, and talk about how it went afterward. We've got to get back to that. 3. We tend to read the same books. I'm entering my senior year of college this fall (later-life learning is so great!) so he'll pick up the books I'm studying and we'll have ongoing conversations about the course content for 3 whole months. I usually come home and tell him everything I learned that day so it's a free education for him! Overall I believe if we're passionate about something (like great conversation) we can have more of it in our lives by being the match that lights the fire. Best of luck to you. Paula
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| Posted 2 months ago I love the idea of playing cards or games together. I will certainly try that. We watch very little television,and know a few people who have gotten rid of theirs with good results. Thanks for the input. Do It Scared! |