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Trust me there will come a time when clubbing and dating will become tedious.

I made a commitment to myself years ago that I would let my future unfold how it will and not force the issue.  I don't know very many happily married people and that is a sad thing to say but it's true.  Marriage to me is a scary prospect, I am of the opinion why fix something that is not broken with regard to my long term relationship.  He went through a nasty divorce and I'm not sure he'll ever be ready to make that leap again.  At the same time I am happy with what we have so there is no pressure to do it.  The only thing that is a benefit for us to marry is the fact that he is military and there are certain things that would be a bit easier for us as a married couple but we have figured out how to be together without them so far.  We also don't have the pressure of wanting children, he has two from his marriage and I don't have that nagging time clock urge to procreate.  Perhaps after his kids are grown we will consider being foster parents but that is years from now.

Being monogamous is an interesting thought.  There are times when I wonder if I can stay with one person and there are times when I wonder if he can.  In the end, we are both just open minded enough to add some spice to our relationship in the form of another person if we ever get to the point of boredom, which for the record, I don't see that happening.  We are pretty good together still.  I have even told him that he can go elsewhere if he wants as long as he is careful and uses protection and that he makes absolutely positive that I don't find out about it.

I can't envision cheating on a spouse or a SO. It's not in my nature since I am a very loyal person. However, if I find out that someone has seriously wronged me, I am out of the relationship.

Romance is not lame. It takes on different forms in a long term relationship.

AnnEvanston says ...

Any man can romance a woman for a night; it takes a real man to romance her for a lifetime.

 

I believe that, and have a man that has romanced me for 11.5 years. When we are out people often think we have been together way less. The relationship has not been perfect and at times downright hard - we work on it.

I firmly believe that "what you think is what you get." To truly get what you want you have to think about it instead of what you do not want! Stop attracting it, it will stop appearing!

Got that right, SISTA"! (Snap*, snap*)

Hi.  I think that if it came to me wanting to be with someone else...then I would move on and do that...but I love to be monogamous and happy with only one other!  I love honesty and romance and if I was unhappy...I would be moving on...but am very happy for about 2 yrs now in my current relationship and love how it grows each day!