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A Woman's Earning Power and a Man's Ego
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Posted 2 months ago Too often high earning women feel compelled to "protect" the ego of their man when it comes to money-related conversations in dating and marriage relationships. It's like the proverbial 700 pound elephant sitting between them that both knows is there, but rather than disturb it, they choose to talk and walk around it. My question is who is really responsible for the male ego? I wish women who already juggle enough (career, kids, romance...ad infinitum) would say no to including the ego of her man as her responsibility to "protect". Each of us is responsible for our own sense of self. I'd love to know what others think. There is so much more I could say about this subject.... Crystal A. Hernandez, M.S., MFT
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| Posted 2 months ago I hope no one thinks it's their responsibility to take care of a man's ego! Your ego is your own to care for and to suppress (when needed) -- your significant other's is his (or hers, as it may be). Whenever I've been in a relationship with someone who has a slightly fragile self-esteem, whether it's related to jealousy, professional success, relationships with other people, I feel the best thing to say is the following: "I'm with you because I want to be. You have nothing worry about." The person has to have at least enough self-esteem to understand that you want to be with them, particularly if you say so. Daniela
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| Posted 2 months ago My husband - and all the men I've been involved with in my life - can handle an empowered, successful woman. Period. |
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| Posted 2 months ago LilaK says ...
Amen, LilaK. Personally - we pick the man, not the other way around! So if a woman picked a man who has those issues, why did she pick him? (I could say the SAME thing in the men don't listen post - I won't! My man has NO problem with either Ann M. Evanston, MA
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| Posted 2 months ago The ego can heal. Do I think that it is somewhat normal for a man to at some point feel intimidated by a successful and high earning woman? Absolutely! And the couple should talk about it! We can't blame anyone for how they feel, but we are responsible for our actions on those feelings. If he can express it and get through it- good for both! Otherwise, other issues will come up time and time again... Korina Anja |
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| Posted 2 months ago I absolutely feel that I am responsible only for me...and if my man has a jealously problem of is out of sorts with me or feels I am somehow responsible for his well-being...well...I should really be in a different relationship with someone that CHAMPIONS me...and is happier with himself! It is a short life, ladies, and I do not have to make someone else happy when that is really their OWN issue....and none of my business! :-) Good topic! :-) |
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| Posted 2 months ago I think there's no reason not to be honest abt it. I am honest with my husband abt everything, including this. But we should still consider the man's ego, just as we want him to consider ours. Boastful/negative comments and actions, no matter how strong a person, can damage the ego/self-esteem of ANY of us, man or woman. Whatever the subject matter may be - don't rub it in!! "People will forget what you say, they will forget what you do, but they will never forget how you made them feel!"-Unknown |
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| Posted 19 days ago We all have our ego meltdowns -- when we are partners -- we get to know each "other's" in an up close and personal fashion. I think we can cut each other some slack. When I first went out on my own there was alot of money going out and none coming back -- for a long while. My husband was very supportive, my biggest fan -- go for it Karen. Just about a year before the money starting rolling in -- we started fighting -- about stupid stuff. One night I was scratching my head wondering what in the world(?) when it hit me. He realized I was about to actually pull it off - and - he was worried how it was going to affect our relationship. We worked through it -- it's all good now. Men can be funny about that money -- for some of them -- that's about power and "say-so". |
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| Posted 17 days ago McKaren says ...
McKaren, great insight--men and money have been synonymous for so long that a shift in the scenario can really feel like a curve ball coming fast. Great comment. Crystal A. Hernandez, M.S., MFT
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