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Purity Trend???
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Posted 3 months ago Is this kind of thing disturbing to anyone else? ---- I just read an article in the New York Times about a trend of purity balls where fathers openly declare their commitment to protecting their daughters from pre-marital sex in public. When did this become something -- if you believe in it - that you have to do in public? Seems very image-driven. Why do you need to tell all your community about this? This photo in particular really struck me as very strange:
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| Posted 3 months ago Has anyone here ever been to one of these events? Or know someone who has? I'd like to hear some first-hand experiences... I was raised in a household where we very openly talked about love and sex and I think it made for a very mature understanding of both subjects early on in my life. I think it's sad when parents don't talk to their kids about love and sex because then that's when they'll resort to asking their peers and other immature and uninformed people about it... In the case of the families in the NYT story you posted, Lila, it seems that at the very least there is conversation going. I do find it "odd" though that this is something that isn't just a private conversation within the family unit... I wonder why these families feel compelled to make this a public event. Daniela
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| Posted 3 months ago I saw this article in the NYT yesterday, too. I think what this kind of story brings to light is a discussion of: How is it most appropriate to discuss sex with your children? I was brought up in a similar household to Daniela, it seems, where sex was talked about on a very frank level, and it came in stark contrast to some of the ways my friends were brought up -- their families made sex talk taboo, a secret. I think being open with your kids as soon as possible is the best way to go. Otherwise they will just be misinformed by others. It is up to everyone's own mores and beliefs to teach their children whether pre-marital sex is appropriate or not, but my hope is that even those who preach abstinence before marriage impart a clear message to children that sex is a beautiful way to express love. Otehrwise kids end up fearing sex or having a very distorted view of what it is/means.
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| Posted 3 months ago Lola, I think this is exactly the conversation I wanted to have after reading this story. Moms: How did you teach your kids about sex? When did you think it was appropriate? Daughters: How did you learn about sex? Did you think you learned it in the best way possible?
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| Posted 3 months ago Not a mom yet! But I was told about sex at a relatively young age by both my parents. I think they probably told me about it before I even started wondering about it, or had heard about it from young classmates. I'd guess I was probably around 6 years old. They described as something beautiful that adults did when they were in love. It sounded a little weird and gross to me at the time, of course, but I do think it was a healthy way of introducing a child to sex. Of course, as I grew up, I asked a lot more questions and I got a lot more detailed answers. In my house, we didn't really ever have The Talk; instead we had a life-long Conversation. This is probably the way I will want to handle the situation when it comes to raising my own family in the future. |
