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Sigh! I just got out of a relationship, which means this is the first time in nearly three years I am single. It is disorienting but I need to learn to enjoy the single life - even though it's hard to imagine myself not as part of a couple - before I let any springtime love come to me.

Ahhh... Le Romance. I like to believe that romance can exist for a Long Term Relationship, in a Marriage, for the Single (again), and even the Divorced (again).  It's what we make of it! Let the Romantic begin! ---Cha, Cha, Cha!!!

What song reminds you of romance?  

PossibilityCoachTM says ...

What song reminds you of romance?  

For me, it's any Ella Fitzgerald or Louis Armstrong tune.

Have always been into some kind of relationship... At times I wonder it would be good to be single and far from all the chaos of 'love' life. hmmm... yet, at times, I feel it would be hard not to have anyone...

I think romance can be evergreen..whether in a long term relationship or marriage...it totally depends on the two people involved to keep the romance alive in their relationship.

jo_islandgirl says ...

Have always been into some kind of relationship... At times I wonder it would be good to be single and far from all the chaos of 'love' life. hmmm... yet, at times, I feel it would be hard not to have anyone...

I have always been in a relationship for over three years. As of a week, I have not been. It was almost unfathomable in the first days to imagine not being in a romantic relationship, but - fortunately - I have progressed to a stage where I feel that I am strong enough within myself to be happy. I am actually looking forward to rediscovering myself as a single person, and also doing things I might not have been able to due to my commitment to someone else (i.e. pick up new hobbies, go out more, meet new friends), etc.

Do I want romance again? Of course. As soon as we broke up last week, I wanted it immediately. Now I am thinking a little more rationally, and actually feel I couldn't be romantic for a while. Giving myself time to love myself, be happy, and then I'm sure when I least expect it, it'll happen again.

Somewhere inside myself, there is a longing..... a want to discover myself.. my true self.. I feel as though I have diluted myself each time I have started a new romantic relationship and the longer it is... the more I lost a little bit of me.. yet I still want 'it'. LOL.. sheesh.. bitter sweet feeling

You are right on Ann - Today I will be having a wonderful healilng by my naprapath with candles burning and the sounds of Coyote Oldman in the background.   She includes Reiki in her treatments.  That is taking care of myself blended with romantic features and feelings.  

What other romantic ideas are out there members of WomenCo?   

Me too Daniela! I LOVE my girlfriend time!

One of my most favorite romantic things to do: get some of my favorite movies, cook my favorite meal have some wine and watch my "chick flicks"!

BTW - chick flicks are WAY better without a boy - don't have to listen to their snorts!

romance is never running out of the possibilities of romance...imagine it, dream it and then live it...

mine are endless:

• take the one your with to a one night stand in a posh hotel and set it up with your/their likes: here is a recent one i did

hyatt place, champayne, strawberries dipped in chocolate, feed to them and let do what you like...afterwards, late nite dinner in bed, jazz, incense, bubble bath together,wash them,  massages, then back to bed...(this also works well, with a jacuzzi and or the pool trip in b/w)...

• dinner for two at home: prepare the meal, settting and ambiance of your choice, have a theme...and roleplay it out...


• go for a picnic at a fav park spot, with fountain (works best for me) lay out, play frisbee, hike then just chill together, if the park permits and is exclusive, do what you like, if not then take the mood to home...This can be done at nite to, just when its dusk, then take the mood to the car (mine is SUV, so works well) and get it on...real sexy...


• bring flowers home with cards, etc, least once a month


• breakfast in bed least once a month


• porn nite least once a month or so (then get creative)


• go to upscale or urban club, spot, dance, poetry slam, theater regaae, latin (whatever you two like -- these are just some i prefer) and flirt with someone together, dance, etc...and either pretend or engage, if this is something the relationship permits...


• do  lunch, either at their workplace, or yours, or out least once a month


• entertain small group intimate friends in whatever capacity you prefer (dinner, theater, performance art, political rally)


• plan an imprombtu getaway, expensive or inexpensive and be spontaneous with the plan


• drive to a nearby city, visit the attractions, and stay over nite...


• write a journal together, you start, then let them read, give it to them, then you read, on and on...until its complete...do not respond verbally, only written...do not make comments verbally...a no wholes barred communication...decide if when done, you will discuss or not, depends on both preference...


• decorate the house for a couple party, with erotic toys, and other likes, placed strategically, and go from room to room, playing...and do what comes natural, sexual or non sexual, just touching or whatever your interest


• have a spiritual day of nothing but spiritual intimacy (whatever this means to you/them)

well, these are just some I have done, hope you are inspired...have fun

( i am often told from friends I should get paid for all my know;ledge, but unfortunately, I am mental & artistically inclined, and not business minded, wish I was more marketable, since I am out of work, smiles...)hahahaha

Today I painted my toesnails a beautiful shade of red to go with the sexy sandles I bought yesterday.   This has a romantic feeling to me.   What color are your toenails and what do you think about nail color?  

Texas Girl - Bring it on!  I too feel romanced when a man is courteous and considerate.   Daniela in one of her posts on romance said:

You know, I really love that we're challenging the normal interpretation of "romance!"         It is happening!  I love it!  

I think it would be enjoyable to notice romance everyday in our lives.   I have and it shows!  At the hospital today during a couple of doctor appointments I was told my nurses I looked radiant!   Tears came to my eyes.    Radiate ladies - radiate with romance.  Now that sounds like a good article to write for my newsletter!!  

Romance starts with the most important person in your life: Yourself. If you don't find the courage to love each inch of yourself, romance from other people and other situations will be imperfect or even impossible. That's why I love all these romantic interpretations you ladies have been sharing about moments you feel romantic on your own! I want more of those!