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Past or Future?
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Posted 2 days ago If you had the option of changing your past or knowing about your future...what would you choose and why?
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| Posted 2 days ago I have to say I wouldn't pick either. It's a terrifying thought to know what's coming ahead (not to mention, it would take the spice out of anticipation, for one) and I feel it would be unhealthy to just go back and change all your "mistakes," seeing as it's a big part of how we grow. |
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| Posted 2 days ago As I think back in time, I am aware of the 1001 mistake I’ve made and that I am clearly responsible for each and every one. And there are a few that I wish I could travel back in time for and create an exit ramp. With no exit ramp, all I am left with are options and not holding judgment for myself. And I understand judgment serves no purpose, yet it can be hard to come by when one realizes they are 100% responsible for the health of a relationship. So I am left with discovering how to be okay with myself. If you think about your life as a series of moments strung together, and unfolding into moments of now, up to this point in time, then “it was necessary for you to go through everything you have gone through in your life to bring you into this moment." This is not about “acceptance (because this) implies denial”; rather it is about awareness. Awareness of yourself and others is a non-judgmental way of seeing what is so. A factual account of what is taking place, frees you from being emotionally locked into a mechanical behavior, or personal shenpa. “Once you realize that everyone is exactly as they are, you no longer experience resentment, shame or guilt.” This starts the process of unraveling unrealistic expectations in either the performance of others, are the expectations of your self. I keep thinking of a pattern of self behavior that I experienced and the day came when I had to make a choice. I had to let go, admit I am not perfect and understand “anything I allow to be exactly as it is, without judgment, will complete itself.” In other words, stop reacting, stop trying to make it ok, realize my short comings and it/this will cease to dominate my life. To be blunt, I had to be aware of what I didn’t like about myself, "without judging myself, for judging myself." There are days I still tripped over this and when I look into the mirror, I still see only me.
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