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Monday, April 07, 2008 WHAT IF. . WILL IT LAST?

  Current mood: artistic Category: CONFUSED Romance and Relationships What if you finally find some one but still with another.

You finally find some one to love you whole heartedly, some one who knows how to hold your hand kiss your face sensually and softly? But you know you can’t just leave the other because. . . You just cant right now. You want to be loved, you prayed for the chance to be in a meaningful relationship, and God grants you that wish and what happens. . . Your still with the guy who you love, but not in love with. The one who hurt you so bad, you never in a million years would of thought that there is a good man out there. But do you really want to leave what you know for something that is new and unknown territory? The Idea isn’t to leave a man for another but for yourself because only God knows the pain you will go through if it doesn’t work out. You will see your ex- with another and you’ll die inside at the very thought of him treating her the way he did to you or even better. TheRe is an old fable about a dog gets a bone and hes looking in the pond and notices another dog in the pond with a bone as big as his if not bigger and he snaps and tries to get it, when in all reality that was his reflection and he lost his bone.! Be happy with your self,.. Love your self enough to love your self. And if you feel that your ready to leave this relationship because it’s not what you’re looking for. You feel that you are not being treated the way you want and deserve? Then leave if you know you deserve better. But when your are alone its going to be the loneliest few days few months, shit maybe you’ll always feel a void inside because you cant believe you let him hurt you and you loved him so unconditionally and in return you never really love another man the way you did him. . . But it gets better. Its okay to be by your self alil. . . Be strong. . . Love isn’t meant to be abused or neglected. Take some time off for your self. tell the new guy you need a break for at least a month or more if needed , so you can get back in to your own rhythm. . . Then you can try and conduct a relationship or maybe even a friendship with this person. if you don’t!! its going to be sweet in the beginning and bitter in the end. Take time. Your going to be so vulnerable and willing to start a new life with prince charming, and he’s going to lead you to the caves of hell. Get to know him better, even if you felt that you got to know him well enough while you were in your previous relationship, but AH HUH!! NOPE you didn’t really, you only saw the fact that he is better than your x, or you will make exceptions like well at least he doesn’t do this or that. Just take a break from the opposite sex and get to know yourself again. There was a writer, I forget his name and he wrote a book based on the correspondences of these two young lovers, he wrote," when two young souls come together and become one, and when they separate they no longer know who they are themselves." Time spent with a FORMER LOVE, CREATES AN UNSPOKEN BOND THAT JUST A UNITY BETWEEN TWO SOULS EVEN IF YOU AREN’T IN THE BEST RELATIONSHIP, YOU’RE CONNECTED! LOVE YOUR SELF LADIES! 11:22 PM -

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