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woco08, I have a couple thoughts:

1) Are you approaching your boss in his/her communication style? Sometimes connecting is about changing how we say it. There is a great book called: "I'm Stuck, You're Stuck" that could be helpful.

2) Have you had a conversations with your manager about expectations, what s/he needs, likes to be communicated with and what you need? I have found that this really removes assumptions and helps both mgr and employee! A

I agree with Daniela. A 1:1 conversation on a regular basis is key. Even though your manager should take this initiative on his/her own, sometimes you have to take matters into your own hands, especially if it's bothering you.

Don't be defeatist, Wocoo8!

Insists on the 1:1s! Maybe ask them in front of someone else, so that it would be awkward to turn you down?

Ann made a good point. There's a possibility your manager believes you like the hands-off approach. In reality, you probably like a combination of hands-off and hands-on. Sounds like suggesting a 1:1 is still your best bet. Show real interest in it and how can they deny you?

I just saw this topic this morning.  Fits right in with a situation I have with my manager.  We have developed a "communications rift" that was also difficult to approach him about.  He is offsite most of the time.  I did what our company calls a "skip level" meeting to talk to his manager, not to get my manager in trouble, but to let him know there is a communication problem.  I was opened to the advice the manager gave, but a little put off when I was told I should "train" my manager with his communication flaws and management deficiencies.  I even spoke to another manager who is outside of the company but knows my manager, and told them the advice I was given and he was even surprised that I was told to "train" my manager.

This discussion was held weeks ago and the manager I spoke to has obviously spoken to my manager.  My manager wants to have a meeting with me this morning to discuss our "communications rift".  I will take some of the suggestions I saw here and see how things go this morning. 

Just an update.  The meeting with my manager went well.  With some of the topics that were discussed it was obvious that his mangaer has spoken to him.  My company is very good with doing a "skip level" when you approach them in a professional manner.  Overall the meeting seemed to be productive, but time will tell.  We both discussed what kinds of communications we would like and where they may have failed in the past.  Concerns for the project in the area where I am a team leader were also discussed which I hope he takes back to his manager since we are in a recompete year.

CAD says ...

Well, this is an interesting topic.  I tried all of the above (boss, bosses boss, bosses bosses boss, CEO, CFO for HR who eventually sent a lawyer to meet with me) for over 2 years and finally time improved the situation somewhat, but I never got the 1:1s.  I believe bosses are dis-empowering their employees when they block communications and it happens all too often.  Eventually, I had to deal with the legal department and that seemed to soften the communications issues a little.  Sometimes, it's just not a good match and we all must do what we have to inorder to improve our work environment, whether that is going to another company when all else fails in a 360 degree circle, or except the status quo.  Best wishes to all who deal with "Distant Bosses" and stay empowered, as well as doing what is right for you and the employer.

CAD, could you elaborate on how the legal department at your company got involved and what they did to improve communication between you and your managers?