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When I Look Into the Mirror I See...
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Posted about 1 month ago When I look into the mirror, I see a very beautiful women. I see someone who loves to love. I see a lady with a plan, knowing where she is going,but, doesn't determine the ending. Gwen1215 |
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| Posted about 1 month ago when I look into the mirror I see someone strong and independant and lovable and worthy of all the good in the world. I also see a mother who loves her children very much. |
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| Posted about 1 month ago Well I'll be honest. When I look in the mirror I see the dark circles beneath my eyes, the little blemishes all over - and it bugs the heck outta me bc there's nothing I can do about it right now! I think, wow, how bad will my eyes look in my 30s??? I see someone who is determined and strong, no matter what, but feels weak inside...if that makes sense! I see someone who sometimes feels like a survivor, but is determined to conquer! ~“I love debate. I don't expect anyone just to sit there and agree with me, that's not their job.”-A.Whitecomb
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| Posted about 1 month ago I'm just glad to be able to look at myself in the mirror again. I can't look too deep yet. |
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| Posted about 1 month ago DianaW says ...
I'm curious D, why do you have such a hard time? It's not who you are that holds you back. It's who you think you're not. - Unknown |
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| Posted about 1 month ago AngelaK says ...
Grief that hit me like a tank. |
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| Posted about 1 month ago DianaW says ...
I understand if you do not want to talk about it here on the forum but why do you feel this grief when you look at yourself. It is towards you or someone else? It's not who you are that holds you back. It's who you think you're not. - Unknown |
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| Posted about 1 month ago AngelaK says ...
hmm I suppose part of it is what they call (and I hate the term) survivors guilt. Some of it is frustration with myself, I really let myself go and hid out for about 2.5 years. Part of it is the feeling of not having accomplished much myself when the person that died had accomplished so much. (we are only 2 years apart). A lot of self pity. Anger at myself for being so affected by it and not being strong or keeping it together. Plus all of the emotions that go along with simply trying to exist without someone who was a huge part of my existance. Not being able to act on my ill feelings toward someone specific so having to live with that inside me. You know when you disappoint someone you love so much that you can't look them in the face for a while? Yeh that is pretty much how I felt for 2.5 years towards myself. Bleh! |
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| Posted about 1 month ago DianaW says ...
Diana, Have you been able to begin the forgiveness process toward yourself and anyone who has hurt you? It may help with the healing. Grief affects us all differently, and there isn't a right way to grieve, there's the way it is for you. As you're getting stronger, remember your worth and forgive yourself. Jane G. Chambers
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| Posted about 1 month ago a beautiful, serene woman. Inside, however, is worry and grief. Jane G. Chambers
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| Posted about 1 month ago When I first glance in the mirror I see what I want the world to see me as…which is a strong, determined, thoughtful, compassionate, funny, and spiritual women. But when I look past the exterior façade I see a scared, lonely, hurt woman who’s trying hard everyday to be what the rest of the world sees, and mainly what God wants me to be. Ms. Antoinette M. Brown I am a divine original fashioned by God to be radiantly beautiful! Accounting professional committed to integrity, professionalism, and support to drive a business toward success. |
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| Posted about 1 month ago AJaneChambers says ...
Thank you for being supportive. I am feeling much better about myself, the past several months have been a good growth period. There is nothing to forgive myself for, in the end my actions or inactions are the choices I made at the time and all I can do at this point is learn from them and be more thoughtful in my decision making. Nothing was deliberate from me to hurt anyone else, so I have released that part of it, mostly it was just me punishing myself for existing and it took a while for me to quit doing that. I will never forgive the person that hurt my family, it is what it is and I, personally, don't need to forgive her. I have given it to the Gods to deal with as they see fit and since doing that I am feeling much better about it. I have a tiny bit of pity for her that her lesson will most likely be a very tough one and not pleasant at all. I agree, grief does effect us all differently and we all deal with it in our own way. How we process events in our life has much to do with how we see ourselves in the mirror...or if we can even look. |
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| Posted about 1 month ago DianaW - I am so glad you are facing your demons and have been working through this. It takes a strong person to do that. If you ever want to talk, I'm here! It's not who you are that holds you back. It's who you think you're not. - Unknown |
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| Posted 28 days ago I have a problem. I can't seem to look at myself in the mirror in a public place, anywhere there are other people. In private I am fine but in public I can not. This is also the case when surrounded by people I do not know. Like in a store or something. I look at everything but the people around me. Any clue as to what is going on with me? |
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| Posted 28 days ago Dan_Dee~ Is it that you feel unsafe, and is this something you have always had trouble with or something that just started occurring? |
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| Posted 27 days ago dan_dee_1975 says ...
Is there perhaps something weighing heavily on your conscience? Seems like that is self confidence factor, maybe either not feeling worthy or somehow feeling beneath yourself and others. Could also just be an ultra shyness or as Vonfoster said, an unsafe feeling in public, like a form of agoraphobia perhaps. Just my thinking outloud. |
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| Posted 27 days ago when i look in the mirror i see the little girl who became the woman i am now. she's still in me. |
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| Posted 26 days ago Let me start by saying Thank You. I would also like to add that I have no problem speaking to people face to face or even in small groups. I always connect with a persons eyes during a conversation. I did read a little about agoraphobia and it's symptoms, but how does a person get better? Can a person get better? I have a feeling as you have stated that this might be some type of shyness. How can a person get rid of either symptom? |
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| Posted 26 days ago dan_dee_1975 says ...
As far as I have heard the best way to get rid of shyness is to push yourself into situations you are normally not comfortable in. If you have problems making eye contact in a store, force yourself to do it. What you'll find out (hopefully) is that nothing bad happens when you do. Kinda the same for the agoraphobia. The underlying fear of something bad happening if you step outside of your boundary is what sometimes needs to be conquered. Find out what the issue is for you and deal with it head on. At least that's what I have heard. You might want to talk to a professional about it though. |
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| Posted 26 days ago Someone who needs to get out of the house more... |
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| Posted 24 days ago When I look into the mirror, I see a woman that is a survivor. A women who stood strong through the storms life brings. A women who learns and tries to help others learn. A woman of compassion and wisdom! A women who 20 years ago, I never thought I'd be! The pursuit of happiness is the chase of a lifetime! It is never too late to become what you might have been! Never Give up! |
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| Posted 20 days ago when i look into the mirror i see the pain that i hide. |
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| Posted 18 days ago Rosalia, I see your posts and I wonder if there is anything we can do.. DianaW, After reading the whole discussion, I realize that you are getting better, and I'm sure sharing that with us wasn't easy. So thanks for trusting us with your thoughts. "What you do for yourself - any gesture of kindness, any gesture of gentleness, any gesture of honesty and clear seeing toward yourself - will affect how you experience your world. In fact, it will transform how you experience the world. What you do for yourself, you're doing for others, and what you do for others, you're doing for yourself." |
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| Posted 17 days ago Watchnstarz44 says ...
Thank you, it is not easy admitting or sharing stuff like that but it is a healing process to do so and I appreciate the support and compassion from you and the others in this thread who have offered kind words. I want to also say to everyone that if you know someone grieving please don't push them the get better unless it is a dire self abusive situation. It is very rarely healthy or helpful to tell someone to get over it when they are processing a loss. Everyone deals with it differently and for different lengths of time. I have heard horror stories in my support group of family and friends telling them that they have grieved long enough and to move on. It just is not that easy, our society does not allow for a grieving process. We are given maybe a couple of weeks which just gets us through the shock of it. I wish we could bring back the year of mourning but now I'm just rambling. Be well and enjoy this most interesting day. |
