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Why does he "gawk" at other women when we're together?
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Posted 3 months ago Ladies, you know what I'm talking about. You are with "your man", walking down the street, holding hands and some random woman walks by and "your man" gawks at her like you are not there. That so gets under my skin! I don't mind him looking but please don't disrespect me and our relationship by freakn' staring at her. So, I have to ask for a man's input here - Why do men stare or gawk at other women when they have one right by their side? Why? BTW - Mine does not do this to me. I have caught him glance here and there but nothing blatant. I was just thinking of how I get looked at by other men when they're with someone of some sort of significance and had to ask the question. Need Breeds Ingenuity! |
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| Posted 3 months ago Look but don't touch! Some guys drool when they see an attractive woman; others glance. Maybe it has to do with a guy's level of maturity or lack thereof. The availability of online porn and "girlie" magazines overstimulate some guys and feeds their insecurity. I bet that a lot of the droolers would not have the nerve to interact with a woman he saw on the street. I agree with Kat; gawking would make me uncomfortable. I think it is considered a natural reaction by many guys. |
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| Posted 3 months ago Because he is a man? I kid! I kid! My husband will only stare if the girl is wearing something so blatantly trashy that he will exlaim to me; very pissed off might I add; "Her parents let her out of the HOUSE like THAT?!?" he has also said that when he has a daughter she will have 'honor', a concept that is very very big in asian families. "The brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough."-Randy Pausch |
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| Posted 3 months ago Men are born hunters. Even some of those men who are involved in commited relationship, finds it intriguing to lure other women into their web of deceit. |
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| Posted 3 months ago It's human nature to look at something you consider beautiful. I'm not above it believe me! But there is such a thing as being discreet and having respect for the one you are with. I have no problem with a glance but if my husband gawked and turned his head back looking at another woman while he was walking with me, I'd kick him. It's not who you are that holds you back. It's who you think you're not. - Unknown |
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| Posted 3 months ago AngelaK says ...
I agree "gawking" and looking are 2 different things! Besides I know who my man is coming home and making love to! Ann M. Evanston, MA CEO Zena Enterprises
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| Posted 3 months ago I'm not sure why men do that. And it really is rude and disrespectful. My boyfriend doesnt do it to me(blatantly) but today there was a man holding on to his woman and her back was facing me but HIM.....he was all up in my business. and it REALLY disgusted me because she looked like she was in that position of vulnerabilty and she needed her man comfort and I was not dressed so spectacular. I felt sorry for her and embaressed. I"m not even sure why I felt embaressed but i did.......jerk. |
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| Posted 3 months ago My husband looks all the time. Most of the time I look with him....LOL. Just recently, I was walking on the streets of New York with my husband when I spotted a girl wearing a skirt talking on her cell phone. She was walking on a subway grating just when the train was passing by. Her skirt when up and I was the only one looking. I pulled my husband's arm to grab his attention and pointed at the girl. We both ducked at the same timeto look under her skirt...
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| Posted 3 months ago
Agreed. The minute the neck starts to twist back, he's gonna hear it.
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| Posted 3 months ago Couldn't tell ya but I'm often gawking at the same woman. hehe |
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| Posted 2 months ago Men are visual creatures and it says in the Bible that man will always have a roving eye! But you can always punch him in both of them! LOL! |
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| Posted 2 months ago I am soooooooooo glad I don't have to worry about that anymore!! My fiance is all about respect - we went through a relationship with someone who disrespected him and cheated on him and he would never, ever do that - when we are out together, I am the only woman in the room according to him! My ex-husband on the other hand was a gawker - hence why we are divorced!!! Jodie Peruski, CMA, Owner of Charmed Essentials, LLC |
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| Posted 2 months ago All men look. If you don't notice it, then they are better at hiding it than others. Divorced over gawking? Really?! |
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| Posted 2 months ago Will says ...
I didn't mean that is why we got divorced, there is a whole list of way worse circumstances that lead to that, but that was one of my pet peeves with him!! There is a big difference between "looking" and "gawking". Everyone "looks" - I mean, come on ladies, we do it too!! But "gawking" is when "looking" becomes more than "looking" - some men are very disrespectful and go too far!! Jodie Peruski, CMA, Owner of Charmed Essentials, LLC |
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| Posted 2 months ago If your man is gawking and you don't like it but he continues to do it than that is just bad training on your part.
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| Posted 2 months ago AnnEvanston says ...
My husband glances from time to time, but he does not gawk. I normally don't notice but he has gotten in the habit of telling my by saying "I just lost my Klondike bar". How can I get mad. I know he loves me and would never cheat on me. I appreciate a beautiful body male or female and just because he's on a diet doesn't mean he can't look at the menu. Jean Bentley
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| Posted 2 months ago All men look. I certainly notice a nice looking man when he walks by or even a woman for that matter. Who doesn't? Gawking or head turning while you're with your man or woman is disrespectful and rude. DianaW ...do you really believe you can train someone?
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| Posted 2 months ago ".....I tell you that whosoever looks at a womwn as to have lust for her has committed adultery with her in his heart". That was Jesus Christ speaking. So if 'gawking at' in any way means the kind of look Jesus was talking about, then it is terrible for any man to dare gawk at another woman when with his woman. I too would kick some sanity into him! Thank you Jesus for capturing my man and holding him firm so that he would not disgrace us(you and I) as it is natural for men todo so. Jesus reigns |
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| Posted 2 months ago Sidney45 says ...
To some extent we all train people how to treat us. By allowing him to gawk she is telling him it's ok with her and he will most likely not come to his own conclusion that it is not acceptable behavior. |
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| Posted 2 months ago If I catch him doing it, I mention it or say, "Do you want me get her number?" He stares more when he's tired. Otherwise he just glances. Half the time he doesn't seem to notice he is doing it. When a guy is walking with his girl and gawks at me, I have been known to turn and say, "What are you looking at, you are with your girl, UHG?!" Now I just give them a 'what are you looking at' look or ignore them completely. |
. It was a nice bonding moment.