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Betrayal of Trust and Friendship
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Posted 5 months ago How to overcome the betrayal of a male friend of ten years? I don't think it is possible after a lifetime of continuous betrayal of trust and love. How can you change a lifetime of not trusting and being angry when you keep getting the same thing from every walk of life? |
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| Posted 5 months ago what kind of betrayal? It's hard to answer without more details... |
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| Posted 5 months ago I agree with Respectforall. Without more information, we cannot give you a helpful answer. Donna Life is short. Embrace your friends and family with love. |
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| Posted 5 months ago What helped me was recognizing that each person deserves his own chance. Each person is a fresh start. Having said that, I also learned to keep my eyes open and be aware of signs that certain behaviour could be predicted. We call those "red flags". Some things you can see coming, and when you see a pothole in the road, you drive around it. When someone does betray you in a way that you didn't see coming, you have to deal with it on it's own merits, depending on what kind of betrayal it was. Sometimes you have to leave. Sometimes you work it out and forgive. I guess it's a bit like going through a pile of stinky oysters before you find the pearl....good relationships are out there. But you have to be willing to give it a chance. It's worth it. |
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| Posted 4 months ago I sense this is really difficult for you to talk about. We can't control what others do -- but the simple answer to your question is trust begins with you. Actually it all begins with you -- keep the faith and practice placing your full trust in yourself; reaching out like this is a good step -- it's in the "sharing" that we often get what we need. And when it's such a difficult topic like this one, I'd also grab a notebook and just write, it's a great outlet and you'd be surprised at how much you already know. Good Luck. |
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| Posted 4 months ago I have been down that road many times, where people you know for years and have put your trust in have betrayed the friendship. What do I do? I was tired of carry the load pf bitterness and anger in my life; so I simple forgave the offending person and moved on with my life. I would still talk to the person ,but there would be no close friendship. You see, bitterness is like poison to your body ,it makes you become sick, constantly angry with the world , thinking that you are a failure and may even see no reason to live. The sooner we resolve our differences, the easier it is for us to get the anger from our hearts. It is not easy, but we have to will ourselves to do what is best and positive for our mental and physical health. |
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| Posted 4 months ago Elorraine says ...
Elorraine, It could'nt have been said any better then the way you have said it. And I would like to add that if you don't forgive you lose out on your blessing that God has for you............ |
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| Posted 4 months ago Betrayed....It's hurts me so much ...friends and lover.... Forgiveness is the cure for you... |
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| Posted 4 months ago anggiedee says ...
I agree wholeheartedly -- would like to add, forgiveness is a destination you can't drive to, you simply one day realized you have arrived. Much love to you... |
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| Posted 4 months ago I couldn’t agree more with Seabrownthree, Elloraine, McKaren and anggiede, they have said it best and I had something to learn…that my initial response here was in error and I apologize. McKaren's insight: “forgiveness is a destination you can't drive to, you simply one day realized you have arrived,” really hit home for me. Thank you. |